Because my boyfriend does business in China, he’s constantly gone for long periods of times, especially during holidays. There’s always a 12-hour difference between us, making it very hard to even make a simple video chat possible. When it’s my night, it’s his morning. Usually he’s too tired to wait until I get up in the mornings to chat and he doesn’t have time on his mornings to chat with me at my night. Hence it’s normal for us to go weeks without seeing each other’s faces or hear each other’s voices. Not exactly what I had imagined when I first met him.
Speaking of which, we had the perfect storybook first meeting. Three years ago, he was playing my favorite song at the time, Tong Hua, on the piano in small lounge. I walked in with a couple of friends and was immediately smitten by the cute piano guy. I sat down on a sofa across from the piano and tried to read, only to be extremely distracted (in a good way) by the guy and the music. He played and played for the next 20 minutes or so. When the music finally stopped, I felt him walk closer and closer to me. He stopped right in front of me, silence, and he blurted out “Who are you?” I was quite taken back by this rude greeting and could barely pull up a smile and tell him my name. It wasn’t until much later did I find out that he was just nervous and had gone through so many ways of approaching me in his head while playing the piano. Yet, he forgot everything once he approached me. Go figure.
However, after three years and many, many miles apart, we still have that special spark that most couples lose after the “honeymoon” phase. I don’t believe we’re still in the honeymoon phase since when we fight, we’re quite literally at war with each other. But we always make up and solve our problems ❤ We’re still as fun, carefree, and stupid with each other as the first month we started going out. We’re comfortable with each other and have no embarrassing little secrets. There’s nothing I don’t tell him and there’s nothing he doesn’t tell me. Our lives are filled with so much love for one another that I didn’t even believe was possible before. Yes, we have our differences and our arguments, but what I’ve come to realize that what we have is genuinely something special. So while the distance is a current problem, it’s only temporary. So yes, whether it’s a couple of weeks, or a couple of years, long distance relationships are 100% possible. Distance is temporary but love is forever.